These books can help you in your search for happiness and understanding. They don't take the place of therapy if you need it, but they can point you in the right direction if you have lost your way. Click on a subject area to find recommended books in that category.

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CHILDREN:

1-2-3 Magic: Effective discipline for children 2-12
By Thomas W. Phelan, Ph. D.

From the book jacket)"1-2-3 Magic addresses the difficult task of child discipline with humor, keen insight and proven experience. This time-tested program provides easy-to-follow steps for disciplining children 2-12 without yelling, arguing or spanking. You'll also learn when-and how-your silence can speak louder than you think. Read this book and take charge of your home."

 

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How To Talk So Kids Will Listen & Listen So Kids Will Talk
By Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish

(From the book jacket) "Their (the authors) methods of communication--illustrated with delightful cartoons showing the skills in action--offer innovative ways to solve common problems. You'll learn how to:

* Cope with your child's negative feelings--frustration, disappointment, anger, etc.

* Express your anger without being hurtful

* Engage your child's willing cooperation

* Set firm limits and still maintain goodwill

* Use alternatives to punishment

* Resolve family conflicts peacefully"

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Mom's House, Dad's House  Making two homes for your child
By Isolina Ricci, Ph. D.

(From the book jacket) "Can children flourish in any custody situation? If their parents read Mom's House, Dad's House, the answer is a resounding "yes." This unique ground-breaking classic, which became the standard for two generations of parents, is again breaking new ground--revised, updated and expanded--with examples, self-tests, checklists, and guidelines. This comprehensive guide looks anew at the needs of all concerned with even more creative options and commonsense advice..."

 

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Reviving Ophelia  Saving the selves of adolescent girls
By Mary Pipher, Ph. D.

(From the book jacket) "Why are more American adolescent girls prey to depression, eating disorders, addictions, and suicide attempts than ever before? According to Dr. Mary Pipher, a clinical psychologist who has treated girls for more than twenty years, we live in a look-obsessed, media-saturated, "girl poisoning" culture. Despite the advances in feminism, escalating levels of sexism and violence--from undervalued intelligence to sexual harassment in elementary school--cause girls to stifle their creative spirit and natural impulses, which, ultimately, destroys their self-esteem...By laying bare their harsh day-to-day reality, Reviving Ophelia issues a call to arms and offers parents compassion, strength, and strategies with which to revive these Ophelias' lost sense of self."

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Understanding Your Child's Sexual Behavior  What's natural and healthy
By Toni Cavanagh Johnson, Ph. D.

(From the book jacket) "How nice to find a readable, easily understood book for parents and caregivers that explains children's developing sexuality--when their behaviors are normal and when to be concerned. It's a book that all pediatricians should read well." Carolyn Lytle, M.D. 

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"An extraordinary resource for parents and educators. A must-read for parents who want to know the boundaries of normal sexuality in childhood, Dr. Johnson's book is an effective blend of clinical experience, applied research, and sensitivity." Frank R. Ascione, Ph. D. 

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Alexander and the Terrible, Horrible, No Good, Very Bad Day
Judith Viorst Illustrated by Ray Cruz

This book for children helps them understand that there are some days that just turn out bad, no matter where you are.

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Love You Forever
By Robert Munsch Illustrated by Sheila McGraw

(From the book jacket) "This is the story of how a little boy goes through the stages of childhood and becomes a man. It is also about the enduring nature of parents' love and how it crossses generations. Love You Forever is a book that both children and adults will enjoy--over and over again."

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Your Guide to a Happier Family Liberated Parents Liberated Children
By Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish 

(From the book jacket) "Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish tell how the principles of the famed child psychologist Dr. Haim Ginott have inspired their own highly successful child-care methods, used in parent workshops from  coast to coast. Sharing their own and other's parenting experiences, Faber and Mazlish provide moving and convincing testimony to this approach, one which has proved to bring out the best in both parents and children."

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CO=DEPENDENCE:

Codependent No More  & Beyond Codependence  The groundbreaking International bestsellers together for the first time.
By Melody Beattie

(From the book jacket) "How to stop controlling others and start caring for yourself. The healing touchstone of millions, this modern classic spent three years on the New York Times bestseller list, making codependence a household word and Melody Beattie one of America's best- loved and most inspirational authors. A wellspring of simple yet revolutionary knowledge, Codependent No More points the way to a lifetime of healing, hope and happiness."

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Facing Codependence  What it is. Where it comes from. How it sabotages our lives.
By Pia Mellody with Andrea Wells Miller and J. Keith Miller

(From the book jacket) "A brilliant new guide to understanding the origins of codependence and the path to recovery by a nationally recognized authority on dependency and addiction...In this fresh new look at codependence, Pia Mellody traces the origins of this illness back to childhood, describing a whole range of emotional, spiritual, intellectual, physical, and sexual abuses. Because of these earlier experiences, codependent adults often lack the skills necessary to lead mature lives and have satisfying relationships."   

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DEPRESSION AND PHOBIAS:

The Depression Workbook  The guide for living with depression and manic depression
By Mary Ellen Copeland, M.S. with contributions by Matthew McKay, Ph. D.

(From the book jacket) "The Depression Workbook offers step-by-step, self-help guidance for:

* Taking responsibility for your own wellness

* Using charts to track and control your moods

* Finding appropriate mental health professionals

* Building a support system

* Increasing your self-confidence and self-esteem

* Using relaxation, diet, exercise, and full-spectrum light to stabilize your moods

* Avoiding conditions that exacerbate your mood swings"

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Anxiety, Phobias, & Panic A step-by-step program for regaining control of your life
By Reneau Z. Peurifoy, M.A., M.F.C.C.

(From the book jacket) "You may be struggling with anxiety. You may feel that your fear has become your master and that control of your life has slipped helplessly out of your hands. Yet leading a full and satisfying life may be closer to reality than you now think possible. Let an internationally specialist in anxiety-related problems show you the way by putting in your hands a step-by-step, interactive workbook designed to help you understand--and overcome--all types of nervous disorders, from mild anxiety to severe agoraphobia." 

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DIVORCE:

Mediating Divorce: A Client's Workbook
Marilyn S. McKnight, M.A. and Stephen K. Erickson, J.D.

(From the Introduction) "As you divorce, you will find yourself in unknown territory. Divorce is a time of great personal turmoil. In fact, we sometimes refer to it as a period of "temporary mental illness," because divorcing people so often tell us they feel "crazy." ....This handbook addresses not only the craziness of divorce but also the other, more practical and concrete issues that confront divorcing people as they journey toward the future."

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Don't Divorce Us! Kids' Advice to Divorcing Parents
By Rita Sommers-Flanagan, Chelsea Elander and John Sommers-Flanagan

(From the book jacket) "Don't Divorce Us! Kids' Advise to Divorcing Parents examines the divorce experience firsthand--through the eyes and voices of children and adult children of divorce. People from various ages, ethnic groups, and backgrounds share artwork, essays, and stories that are intimate, humorous, innocent, and wise.

"Parents who read this book will be better able to listen, understand, and help their children deal with the pain and hurt of divorce."

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Dinosaurs Divorce A guide for changing families (An illustrated book written for children)
By Laurene Krasny and Marc Brown

 (From the book jacket) "Dinosaurs Divorce will help (children) understand: divorce words and what they mean, why parents divorce, after the divorce, living with one parent, visiting your parents, having two homes, celebrating holidays and special occasions, telling your friends, living with stepparents, having stepsisters and stepbrothers."

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RELATIONSHIPS:

Boundaries  Where You End and I Begin
By Anne Katherine

  (From the book jacket) "Are your boundaries being violated? Boundaries separate us from others physically and emotionally. In fact, they are essential for our mental and physical health as well as for developing healthy relationships. Yet every day, people's boundaries are being violated by friends, family, or co-workers. Despite the importance of personal boundaries many people are unaware of how or when these very important lines are crossed." 

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Boundaries and Relationships  Knowing, Protecting and Enjoying the Self
By Charles L. Whitfield, M.D.

 (From the book jacket) "Much more than about personal boundaries, this book is about relationships--healthy and unhealthy ones. Here best-selling author, physician and psychotherapist Charles Whitfield blends theories and dynamics from several disciplines into practical knowledge and actions that you can use right now in your relationships."

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Getting The Love You Want  A guide for couples
By Harville Hendrix, Ph. D.

 (From the book jacket) "Are you getting the love you want? My purpose in writing this book is twofold: to share with you what I have learned about the psychology of love relationships, and to help you transform your relationship into a lasting source of love and companionship. In short, it's a book about the theory and practice of becoming passionate friends."

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Keeping The Love You Find  A personal guide
By Harville Hendrix, Ph. D.

(From the book jacket) "The dreams of finding a loving and truly compatible partner spring from the healthiest and most fully human aspects of your nature--and the fulfillment of your dreams is completely achievable. Whatever your history, whatever your heartbreak, as a single person you are in an ideal position to learn what you need to know and what you can do to greatly improve your chances for finding and keeping, love."

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Verbal Abuse Survivors Speak Out  On relationship and recovery
By Patricia Evans

(From the book jacket) "If your partner: seems irritated or angry at you several times a week; denies being angry when he clearly is; does not work with you to resolve important issues; rarely or never seems to share thoughts or plans with you; or tells you that he has no idea what you're talking about when you try to discuss important problems...you need this book."

 

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Your Perfect Right  A guide to assertive living
By Robert Alberti and Michael Emmons

(From the book jacket) "All-new seventh edition of the million-copy bestseller that started the equal-relationships revolution. the first choice of professional psychologists, Your Perfect Right is the most complete, practical and authoritative assertiveness training course available in print."

 

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The Hurt  (A children's illustrated book)
Teddi Doleski

 (From the book jacket) "When his best friend Gabriel calls him a name, Justin reacts by going home to his room and nursing his Hurt. As he adds more hurts to it, the Hurt grows bigger and bigger. Finally, through sharing his feelings and experiencing reconciliation, Justin is able to let the Hurt go and enjoy life with his family and friends."

 

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